Three main things to consider before trapping yourself in a Relationship

Too often we wonder why the relationship breaks mid way even before it stretches to 6months…

My friends always tell me 6 months stands the test of time to see whether the relationship will last..but I really think when this person comes in your life ready and willing to try and build something with you,why shouldn’t it last?

So these are the three things atleast I consider when thinking of engaging in a relationship;

• Can you Talk with the other person;

Talking might sound so simple to you,but getting into a relationship where you can’t communicate to your partner in different things you could be facing can be annoying. Are you both able to sit down as mature adults and talk to each other when there’s misunderstandings or you just ignore each other?, Talking create transparency, eases tension and create an amicable atmosphere for both partners. So make sure atleast you can initiate a conversation and sustain it with your partner.

• Ask yourself if you are ATTRACTED to the person.

Don’t underestimate the power of attraction; it’s okay to say he/she has good manners,respectful and financially stable and all the good things you see in them, but are you physically attracted to him or her because I think the first thing that excites people about you is how you really look and how you package yourself,that’s what they will really first get attracted to. So it’s very important to know that you are attracted to that person and you can smartly introduce him or her to friends,family,meetings,gatherings without feeling uneased. Being attracted to your partner boasts your self esteem and confidence whenever in public. So make sure you are really attracted to that person..

• Having VALUES;

These are very important to consider, does your partner respect you, does he or she have financial morals,and to the women,does he accept the fact that you value your job and supports you through it and not ask you to change especially if its morally meaning for you you, does he/ she value family reunions,the beauty of hanging out with the kids during weekend. Knowing that both of you have standards that need to be balanced and appreciated by both of you.

These are the few things I would really consider to guide me through my dating phase or courtship, and I hope that you gain something out of this read and incase you want to share anything,let me know what you think..Best wishes