WHY WOMEN SHOULD UPLIFT AND NOT TEAR EACH OTHER.

By: Atino Elizabeth

There isn’t any positive gain after destroying another woman’s life, there is no value you have added onto yourself for ill taking about another woman to a point of breaking her relationship, her friendships, her position at work and a lot more that the person has worked hard for. At a point you might think you have gained something out of it but all that is short term, you have actually empowered the other woman to be fearless, to conquer her insecurities, you have made her aware of what the world has for her, you have made her stronger and boosted her self-esteem.
 
Our job as women, not everyone is perfect but we have to lift each other up and there are so many different ways in which we can. We should practice sisterhood in a way that we all be part of the community and employ kindness to one another, be a support system for other women like buying their products or showing sincere gratitude for the services they offer and this should be done consistently when there is an opportunity. There is so much more for us.
 
We as women do not have the luxury to tear each other down, there are a lot of barriers or things in this world already weighing us down. And my only humble request is that we should see these things sooner and work on it so that we help each other grow. On a daily women encounter things like,
 
Gender inequality, there is still a struggle for us to equal to the other gender in different fields of life like job positions, in the music industry and many more but how do we achieve this equality when the same people pushing forth for this is tearing each other down. Yes, many women are occupying positions currently, educating themselves and nurturing their girl child to fight this disease of inequality but more incentives needed and that starts with fellow women voicing and thinking positively about each other.
 
Lack of Confidence; some women always seek pride in taming a fellow woman’s reputation by speaking defamatory words that greatly affects the other and leave alone the too many naysayers in society that has already told her that she can’t make it, she is a looser, this kind of weight deeply affects a woman’s confidence thus more reason to uplift each other

The fear of getting judged by society; on the way she looks, what she’s expected to be doing, which job tittle she holds, too many things that a woman encounters in the world. That’s why the world would be so better for us women if we just showed a reliable character, if words of encouragement came out of our mouths to raise this woman being criticized by society.
 
Family issues and pressure; On a daily a woman wake up with so much expectations from her family and this brings excessive pressure on the woman to do better yet sometimes she’s overwhelmed but because of this, she has to show society that she’s strong-willed in everything. So don’t you think as a woman/lady you need each other more?
 
Marriages and children; what good will you gain when you tear this woman down knowing well that she has to deal with marriage and her children every day. She does not need to wake up to slanderous words on her social media page from you or bring her too much negative energy. No, she doesn’t, what she needs is a friend or woman that is reliable, to uplift her, correct her or teach her where she’s lacking.
 
So as women we owe it to ourselves to uplift one another, we cannot speak of FEMMINISM when there are certain grey areas that we are not putting effort to polish. I intend to believe that no matter how many barriers, we are strong enough to overcome them, we have the power to take charge and change our destiny by coming together as a community and practice togetherness and sisterhood.
 
I must say I have faced and still encounter negative energy, words that psychologically affected me has been thrown at me but I decided to take charge and be more assertive about the things that are important to me most. Every day I practice showing kindness to those that have torn me because its "SMALL WORLD" and you can take charge as well.
 
WE SHOULD KNOW THAT WE AS WOMEN STILL RAISE THE NEXT GENERATION, WE BRING LIFE, WE NURTURE LIFE AND SO WE HAVE TO BE EXPOSED TO KNWLEDGE SO THAT WE CAN ENVISION HOW BETTER TO UPLIFT EACHOTHER.